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The abolition of the family is discussed in two senses:
1) The observation that the family was being abolished by capitalism (either as an
accomplished fact or as an ongoing process;
2) The claim that Communists intended to abolish the family.
In the first sense, Marx had already mentioned this in Section I: “The bourgeoisie has torn
away from the family its sentimental veil, and has reduced the family relation to a mere money
relation.”
Criticism of the family predates socialism (e.g. Plato) and reached a high point with Fourier,
who advocated the compulsory amalgamation of families into a communal living group.
Engels wrote about the “dissolution of the family” (MECW 3 p.424) in the Outlines of a
Critique of Political Economy (1843) and described it in The Condition of the Working Class in
England (1845).
He wrote: “Thus the social order makes family life almost impossible for the worker. In a
comfortless, filthy house, hardly good enough for mere nightly shelter, ill-furnished, often
neither rain-tight nor warm, a foul atmosphere filling rooms overcrowded with human beings,
no domestic comfort is possible. The husband works the whole day through, perhaps the wife
also and the elder children, all in different places; they meet night and morning only, all under
perpetual temptation to drink; what family life is possible under such conditions? Yet the
working-man cannot escape from the family, must live in the family, and the consequence is a
perpetual succession of family troubles, domestic quarrels, most demoralising for parents and
children alike. Neglect of all domestic duties, neglect of the children, especially, is only too
common among the English working-people, and only too vigorously fostered by the existing
institutions of society. And children growing up in this savage way, amidst these demoralising
influences, are expected to turn out goody-goody and moral in the end! Verily the
requirements are naive, which the self-satisfied bourgeois makes upon the working-man!”
(MECW 4 pp.424-425)
Marx wrote in the Theses on Feuerbach (1845) that the family “must be destroyed in theory
and in practice”. (MECW 5 p.4)
In The Holy Family (1845), Marx and Engels quote from “Fourier’s masterly characterisation
of marriage” (MECW 4 p.196). In The German Ideology (1845-46) they wrote of “the slavery
latent in the family” and that “wife and children are the slaves of the husband” (MECW 5
p.46).
They elaborated on this: “But marriage, property, the family remain untouched in theory,
because they are the practical basis on which the bourgeoisie has directed its domination...
One cannot speak at all of the family " as such ". Historically the bourgeois gives the family
the character of the bourgeois family, in which boredom and money are the binding link, in
which also includes the bourgeois dissolution of the family, which does not prevent the family
itself from always continuing to exist. It's dirty existence as its counterpart in the holy concept
of it in official phraseology and universal hypocrisy.
Where the family is actually abolished, as with the proletariat, just the opposite of what
"Stirner" thinks takes place. Then the concept of the family does not exist at all, but here and
there family affection based on extremely real relations is certainly to be found.
In the 18th-century the concept of the [feudal] family was abolished by the philosophers,
because the actual family was already in the process of dissolution at the highest pinnacles of
civilization. The internal family bond, the separate components constituting the concept of the
family were dissolved, for example, obedience, piety, fidelity in marriage, etc.; but the real
body the family, the property relation, the exclusive attitude in relation to their families, forced
cohabitation — relations determined by the existence of children, the structure of modern
towns, the formation of capital, etc. — all these were preserved, along with numerous
violations, because the existence of the family is made necessary by its connection with the
mode of production, which exists independently of the will of bourgeois society.
That it was impossible to do without it was demonstrated in the most striking way during the
French Revolution, when for a moment the family was as good as legally abolished. The